B As the parent of a 7-year-old boy,sometimes I feel like "no' is my most frequently said word.But if I look honestly at the big picture of my daily vocabulary,I probably would conclude that it actually contains too much "yes".Saying yes means opening my- self up to new experiences,inviting new or deeper relationships. But too much "yes"leaves any of us feeling anxious,overcom- mitted(过分受约束的)and powerless to set and maintain bound aries in our lives. This had been on my mind when The Book of No:365 Ways to say It and Mean It-and Stop People-Pleasing Forever came across my desk.The new edition of this decade-old book by psychologist Susan Newman is a must-read book for those of us

and give to the rich in developing countries. 37.In their opinion,even though foreign aid isn't hav- ing the desired impact,it is better than not providing aid at all. They argue that most of developing countries still need aid before they move away from dependency to self reliance.One volunteer in Africa said,"Over half of the world's population live in less developed countries.Many of them are rather poor.38." 39 However,it is also true that there are certain things which foreign aid cannot do.Experience has shown that foreign aid cannot right all social wrong or solve every economic problem of a developing country. 40.A country's economic development depends,eventually,upon its own people.So if we really want to help those less developed countries,we need to